Where were you when you got your offer of admission?

The waiting is over!  Our son has been offered admission to college! These sweet moments make me think about that happy day when my college said yes to me.  My counselor, Sister Carmody, received a copy of the letter during the school day and called me into her office.  Sister Carmody was tall and sometimes hard to see behind the many, many college brochures she had piled on her desk.  She handed me the letter and asked me to read it.  The letters on the page swam in front of me and I asked for help.  “You are in,” she said, “They are admitting you.”  Tears of pure joy followed, celebrations of a bright future. Twenty-first century applicants learn decisions through technology.  Our son was at the Thai restaurant with his sister when the news came in.  With a...

We wait

As a Director of Admissions I do have the inside track.  I know how decisions are made, I’ve signed the letters and approved the portal content.  But when your own children are waiting for their results, there is no joy in Mudville. Our daughter put up a brave front until the day before the decisions were issued.  Then, she came home, checked the mail and finding no letter, dissolved in tears. Our son is in a new generation and he will learn the outcome electronically.  Does this mean we should stand around the iPhone together? He has been loud, impatient, hasn’t wanted to do his homework or laundry.  (Truth be told he never does his laundry.) In turn, I have pointed each child to the chat rooms online where students and parents share the latest...

I did not fill out my son’s application

It was time, finally time for our son to complete his Common Application. He needed our help. I assure you my husband and I did not fill out his Common App! Parents have been asked over so many years to complete many hundreds of permission slips, camp applications and waivers. It is a hard habit to break. We are tempted. After all, we are good at filling out forms. It was time for us to let our man/boy do the work. For us, the application was a group experience with Chris asking questions, “What is a FERPA? How many sports activities can be listed in a row? When did you graduate from college?” I tried to get away but Chris stood outside the bathroom door and by my bed while I was sleeping. He wanted to fill out his application AT THAT MOMENT. I needed...

What a great day!

What a great day!

Whew! What a great day when the standardized tests are in the rear view mirror. It is stressful to locate sufficient #2 pencils, the correct calculator (do we REALLY need extra batteries??) and an appropriate form of identification. Worse yet is a crabby teenager at 6:30 am on a Saturday morning about to give up his phone for four hours! The next challenge is breakfast.  Which combination of carbs, protein and sugar will give my son the edge on the tests? Happily, my coffee fits in a travel mug and I can come back home and take a nap. Good luck, buddy!   photo credit: albertogp123 via photopin...

Chris takes the wheel

Chris takes the wheel

There we were in the living room – the three of us.  Our son says that he is sorry that his parents have to drive him back for a second visit at his dream college. My husband said, “That’s OK.  It is our job to get you in to college.” I am waving my hands, pretending to hold a steering wheel when our son shows that he has learned his lessons.  Chris said, “No, it is my job to get in to college.” “Yes,” I added, “and our job to drive the car.”   Photo credit: IncessantBlabber

Why am I grinding my teeth over the college process?

Why am I grinding my teeth over the college process?

My son is a good student.   Why, oh why am I grinding my teeth over the college process? I worry that he will not be admitted to the colleges he likes.  I fear his disappointment – and mine. If he does not get in to his top school, I know that he will be devastated.  But Chris has bounced back in the past: he did not make the baseball team and he broke his jaw.  Amazingly, he rallied from each setback and went on with life. I know from years in college admissions that students find and are offered admission to great colleges and that worry does not help.  Wish I could take my own advice…